Dear Books, Last year, my partner had a major health crisis that disrupted everything about both our lives and took months to recover from. Then just as physical recovery was coming along, there was a small health setback (since recovered). Now there is a different life challenge causing emotional turmoil.

Dear Books, My twins were born 8 weeks premature, and they are doing great but are in the NICU and can't come home. My 12 year old isn't allowed in the NICU and cannot meet them until they come home. The challenge I'm having is feeling like I am obligated to two separate families: my 12 year old who has been an only child and needs attention and love, and the two babies in the NICU. When I'm with one over the other I feel guilty, and emotionally am having difficulty balancing the obligations and taking care of myself.