Struggling With Transition
Dear Books, I am struggling with the life transition from non-parent to parent and all the challenges that raising two little, lovable, spirited boys entails. This is also happening within the context of the Covid pandemic and absent a "village,” i.e. missing a kind/supportive community to help us out and balance the load. I’m trying to find my new identity as a new parent when life is so different now, and I'm unable to do many of the things I used to do because of time and family obligations. Also, I’m finding Americans are quite judgmental of parents, and that society appears somewhat hostile. Our American system isn't designed for two working parents, and the transition and loss of identity has been so challenging.
Worried About Burnout
Dear Books, I have a very high-pressure, stressful job that has potential to lead to burnout—for real. At the same time, I love it. But I'm trying to set myself up with healthy habits that help me cope and manage, so I can stay in this job without getting burned out.
Hanging on by a Thread
Dear Books, Last year, my partner had a major health crisis that disrupted everything about both our lives and took months to recover from. Then just as physical recovery was coming along, there was a small health setback (since recovered). Now there is a different life challenge causing emotional turmoil.
Two Separate Families
Dear Books, My twins were born 8 weeks premature, and they are doing great but are in the NICU and can't come home. My 12 year old isn't allowed in the NICU and cannot meet them until they come home. The challenge I'm having is feeling like I am obligated to two separate families: my 12 year old who has been an only child and needs attention and love, and the two babies in the NICU. When I'm with one over the other I feel guilty, and emotionally am having difficulty balancing the obligations and taking care of myself.